After the shooting, someone, a stranger, asked me what happened. Not only did he ask, he persisted but not in a mean way. He wanted to know. I simply told him ‘You really don’t want to know.’ A couple months later, Dr. G discussed avoidance. Although I realize I was avoiding answering this guys question, I felt it was the right thing at the time just as I didn’t want my family and friends to be upset by it. Why share something that is only going to hurt others?
That night that we met, his cousin and I hit it off and started talking on social media. Recently, I told her to have him call me if he really did want the answer to his question. He did, immediately. What I didn’t realize at the time was why he wanted to know. He was from a different state and probably wouldn’t see this place again.
They come from a rather LARGE and I mean HUGE family, members far and wide. They also love outings, concerts, and getting together and making a ruckus. He made the comment that if someone was bold enough to do this here, in this country, state, city, and venue with this particular crowd then it could happen anywhere and he wanted to understand so he could better protect his family. I found his sentiment admirable.
The conversation helped him to understand how quickly the events unfolded and was completely unexpected.